Having motivation is the difference between effort and ease. It’s hard to make ourselves do things when a part of us can’t be bothered (or isn’t quite on board) or we haven’t got the resource or

ON LIVING WITHOUT PURPOSE - Project Self Life Coaching

On Living Without Purpose

Do you know what Your Purpose in life is? No? Me neither. Do you have a sense of what your calling is, your gift, your raison d’etre, what you are meant to do with your life? No? Me neither. Does it matter that you don’t know? No. Is there a sense that we should? Yes. You don’t need to know what Your Purpose is, or Your Passion, to lead a fulfilling life. There can be an inherent pressure in life through society, culture and parental ‘encouragement’ which becomes evident from childhood, that we should know what we want to do.…
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On Being Into Something - Project Self Life Coaching

On Being Into Something

I disappeared this summer. I lost myself in a creative project. I let myself be taken over by it; let it be the most important thing in my life. It became my focus, the source of my energy and the distraction of it. It was a joyful and challenging immersion. It was all I thought about and all I wanted to think about it. There was little space for anything else in my life. This kind of creative immersion is often described as flow (Csikszentmihalyi). It was both exhausting and exhilarating to be so caught up and in something. Invested and…
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ON KNOWING YOUR MOTIVES - Project Self Life Coaching

On Knowing Your Motives

It’s interesting that to question someone as to their motives seems to have a negative connotation. As if there is a sense of something underneath, undeclared and invisible that is driving the person’s behaviour towards their own ends. As if to have a motive, an end in mind, is a negative state which creates deception. When we question someone’s motives, is it because it is not clear from their actions what their intentions are, so we are concerned that things are not as they seem? Yet a motive is a creative, personal and powerful thing. It’s the source; it’s the…
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On Procrastinating - Project Self Life Coaching

On Procrastinating

It is interesting how procrastinating can have value and also act as an excuse. Timing is important. We can only do something when we feel ready. It’s perfectly acceptable to wait until it is the right time, until we are in the right place. But sometimes we won’t ever be in the ‘right place’, so waiting isn’t necessarily going to give us that arrival. It’s important to reflect on why we are procrastinating, and be aware of the obstacles or excuses we are putting in the way, the reasons we are putting something off, if it’s something we really want. Recognising…
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