Our perception tends to define the reality of our experience. We may run scripts and rants and create and believe our own narrative in order to establish familiarity and order; to make sense of the world and we inherently hold a view of how the world and others should be. Much of our story is constructed from beliefs that no longer serve us, assumptions we make about others, standards that we have internalised and possible contracts we’ve made with ourselves about how we need to be or what we should do or how we should be, to armor against and to orchestrate life. We compare ourselves to others, assess ourselves and hold judgment, often without being able to see what we are holding, re-running habitualised thought patterns. Letting go of old material and changing the story opens new neural pathways, meaning we can get out of our own way and listen deeper for a more felt sense of knowing. We can change how we see things.
It’s often said we don’t know what someone is struggling with, or battling with and that everyone has their own personal struggle of some kind. Clients often bring something, an issue or problem they are ‘struggling’ with. What do we mean when we say we are struggling with something? That something is hard, challenging or difficult to resolve? That we are coping with a sense of inability to do something ‘well’? That we are trying to make something happen and it’s not? That we are tangled in something and can’t find a way through because we don’t know what to…Read More