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Feeling Shame

Shame is a painful state where we feel we are a bad person. It’s where we struggle to connect to healthy self esteem, self-worth and our self value and it can make us shrink back from people and situations.

On How We Learn To Not Be Ourself - Project Self Life Coaching

On How We Learn To Not Be Ourself

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Much of what we think of as our personality is in fact a collection of strategies we developed as a child for managing everyday life. Many of these become traits we identify with and aren’t really who we are, but a role we took on. Our inner child is a strategist (a strategy being a method to achieve an outcome). As children we learn to behave in certain ways to get our needs met by the caregiver. We learn to comply with their messages about right and wrong, along with cultural and social messages about how we need to be,…
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ON NOT FEELING BAD - Project Self Life Coaching

On Not Feeling Bad

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We often feel bad about ourselves, conflating how we can behave with who we are. We can also feel a dislike for who we are and also feel deep down, a sense that we lack worth as a human being. And so we tread heavily on the earth, comparing our weighty lack of substance to the seemingly Sorted & Successful Ariel figures around us.  Welcome to the walk of shame. The walking dead. The human experience of walking around feeling like there’s a cloud, a shadow, hanging over you; a weight on your chest; a restriction in your throat or an emptiness…
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